Notify me of new posts via email. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. Why is Clarity Important? Tips for Communicating Constructively Be polite and respectful, no matter what. Keep in mind what you hope to achieve. Keep communication as factual as possible.
There is no harm in telling the other person calmly what you feel but you should aim to transform the conflict into a dispute. I have written previously about this and you might find my blog post on this helpful. If you are communicating in writing , read and re-read your email before sending. Create some distance between your message and your emotions by reading the message a day before sending it.
This will help you ensure it is clearly written and communicates exactly what you want. Remember, the other person may perceive it in their own way but be as clear as possible, especially when expressing emotion. If in doubt, ask a trusted friend to read your message to get their impression of it.
What do you think about this? Empathy helps you understand and accept. It enhances transformation and change. Be clear. When you communicate with another, stick to expressing your feelings rather than pointing the finger. Avoid blaming, dumping, judging or telling others what to do. Show appreciation. Do whatever you can to validate your partners. Use listening and mirroring skills to show respect and consideration, at the same time, you can still maintain your beliefs.
One has nothing to do with the other. Let go of the need to be right, in control, or on top. Interpersonal connection and the exchange of understanding are so much more fulfilling and yield better results. Communication is an art. Keep experimenting and go through the trials and tribulations. You will come to enjoy it. She is dedicated to the art and craft of human growth and transformation. Nomi has been counseling, training coaching, lecturing, and facilitating for 26 years.
This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. If you have a sensitive issue at work, I would encourage you to give everyone involved a chance to tell you what happened before you make judgments. It is important to focus on the problem instead of the person causing the problem. By focusing on the problem we are putting focus on something we can do something about instead of a person. The problem can for example be a destructive behaviour.
If we focus on the person, they will feel attacked and become defensive. It is important to be specific about what the issue is. If we shall give someone a chance to change their behaviour we also need to be specific with what we want them to change. I could later let him know that I had indeed seen a change in his behaviour. This is never [sic] very helpful, rarely true and certainly not particularly constructive.
There are time when it can be better to keep your motives and feelings hidden but normally it is more constructive to let the other person know what is going on in your mind and heart. We can not expect others to be mind readers. Giving insight to your inner world will also bring forward unspoken expectations.
Feelings are also something that is impossible to argue with. No one can say that you do not feel what you are indeed feeling. Most people does also understand feelings, although some are better at putting words to their feelings than others. A constructive way of communicating is to connect the bad behaviour with the feeling and also giving them an alternative, desired behaviour.
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